Setting goals doesn’t work for me, I like surprises better

Do you sometimes feel you need to know more clearly what it is that you want?

goalsettingYesterday I attended a little festival for self-employed people like me. My business is doing very well and assignments come easily without much effort. At the same time I have difficulty explaining to others what it is what I do, because it’s so diverse. One day it’s facilitating sessions on innovation, the other day it’s speaking about the importance of play for a large audience, or coaching 1 person, or organizing an event, or doing educational design for working with elderly people, or teaching Leadership to MBA students, or do a fun workshop with improv theatre or laughter yoga or be an energizer at conferences. My work comes from and through people that know me and I feel very lucky in this position where I don’t have to actively search for clients.

I have a strong sense of purpose (inviting adults to play more) but often I feel that I need to become more clear on my goals or more specific on my targetgroup etc. So, at the festival I attended a session on setting strategic goals for your business and attach daily actions towards that goal. It made me feel stressed immediately and at the same time I thought it made sense to be more clear on my goals and taking deliberate actions towards them.

This morning I went for a walk and thought about this. And then I came to an interesting insight. The reason why I don’t exactly know what I want, is because I like surprises better. Setting strategic goals and work hard for them is like going to a shop and just buy the thing that you want. I love getting presents (from the universe) and after I unwrap them come to the conclusion: WOW, you know me really well, because this is exactly what I want without even asking for it.!!

When I look back on my life. The best moments were those that took me by surprise and felt like a huge present. So I think I like to fool myself in believing that I don’t know what I want (ofcourse I do on a deeper subconscious level), to experience the process of surprise. So yes, I think it’s good to think about your goals in a broad sense, but not be too specific about them, to allow space for those surprises that really feel good. And then when these opportunities knock on your door, just to say YES, let’s do it.

Playfully yours,

Annemarie Steen

What’s on your Bucket List?

bucket listHi,

Last week I saw the movie The Bucket List (2007), starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. It is about two guys who meet at a hospital. Both are diagnosed terminally ill. They are going on a journey together to do things that are on their Bucket List (things you want to do before you die). It made me think what I would put on my Bucket List.

The essence of any good bucket list consists of overcoming fears, achieving goals, realizing dreams and even simple pleasures. Whether it’s an exotic adventure half-way around the world or something simpler, like spending more time with your family or friends. What matters is that you experience all the good and phenomenal things Earth offers.

Here are some things that come to my mind for my bucket list:

Meet some people that inspire me;
Deepak Chopra
Daniel Pink
Brene Brown

To learn how to;
Play one masterpiece on the piano
do Capoeira
Sail a hobbycat catamaran

To do;
A TED talk
Write a book
Make a trip with Mike & Luna in Asia and/or Australia
Yoga/ meditation retreat in a warm country
Gallup on a horse along a beach
Swim with dolphins

And while I’m writing down the things that I would like to do, I realize that I allready have completed many other things that were on my Bucket List, before I knew you could call your personal goals and desires a bucket list, like;

Travel to India
Learn how to play the violin
Play in a band
Act in a movie
Work for myself
Try drugs
Learn spanish
Travel on top of a bus
Travel on top of a camel
Own and rent a house
Have a kid
Inspire people
Get a coverphoto on a magazineannemarie cover

And summing up this second completed list, I feel very thankful and rich.

I would like to invite you to make up your own bucket list, and also take notice of your allready completed things.

Suppose the World will end on December 21st, What will you choose from your Bucket List to do this week?

Let’s do it. And please share in a comment, so we can read about it after it turns out the world keeps spinning round after December 21st. 😉

With enthusiasm,

Annemarie Steen